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#74130 - 11/02/05 02:20 PM
Re: Beyond the Corner Office
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Registered: 10/26/05
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Dianne,
I'm going to collect some ideas about rules from the other women, or get some of them to get back to you. We all had different experiences.
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#74131 - 11/03/05 12:09 AM
Re: Beyond the Corner Office
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Judy,
I just chenged jobs maybe even careers or better yet, I transitioned into another job. I had worked in the corporate world, only woman on the managment team etc. for 20 years and spent about 7-9 before that "getting there".
Boy the stories I could tell!!! I have been at my new employer for 8 working days so I have alot to learn but also a lot to share and teach. That is the good part.
I am very interested in hearing everything. I would like to do the exercises and hear more about women transitioning in their professional lives. Mine was because of family and so tired of the male dominance I was getting sick-literally.
I am on the edge of my seat.
Lynn
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#74132 - 11/03/05 02:25 PM
Re: Beyond the Corner Office
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Lynn et al,
I am at Dana's. Just got her registered. So I can answer easier when I get back home. But we are setting up ways for you and a group you are part of to hold one of our seminars. Where are you in Pennsylvania?
Judy
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#74133 - 11/03/05 05:42 PM
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#74134 - 11/03/05 05:49 PM
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Judy, trying again.
The 9Women discussed unwritten rules for women at work today. We think one of them is "don't cry." Sometimes it is very hard when someone makes you really angry, but it is better to hold it in, think the problem through, and come back later when you are in better shape to resolve the issue. It was interesting that when we discussed the issue, some of us had problems with it.
Im going to find a list I've used in several talks I've given. It's not exactly a list of unwritten rules, but is my advice based on 32 years at AT&T and Lucent, ending up working for Pat Russo (now Lucent's CEO) as the Chief Information Officer of her business unit.
Judy
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#74135 - 11/03/05 08:21 PM
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Judy, getting back to Evie
Hi,
I wanted to get back to the question about unwritten rules that still exist at work today. A few of the NineWomen discussed this topic. We came up with one rule that should be mentioned. “DON’T CRY.” Sometimes when you are very angry about something a peer or boss has said, the tears want to well up inside you. It is much better to hold them in and get out of there. Walking out, even angrily, is better than crying. After you have calmed down, think about a logical approach to the problem and get back to the person who hurt you in a way that he/she knows where you stand and has an even better view of you than before. Judy from 9W
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#74137 - 11/03/05 09:33 PM
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while I've never actually cried in front of someone during a confrontation act work, I have had to fight really hard to keep the tears back and try not to appear like I'm about to cry - which is difficult when your eyes are welling up. Then I've run and hid in the bathroom until I could calm down I dislike that my natural reaction to a confrontation is to cry - but I am a sensitive person and I don't know how or if I want to change my nature/make up - instead I think its better to develop good coping skills, like the technique you mentioned above - hold it in and get away for awhile.
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