Exactly, so people no longer see anything as sinful or evil. We also don't realize that God is offended and we are hurting oursleves, as well.
Our society needs to get back to purity and holiness, and I believe it is women who have to lead it back that way. After all, it is women who are posing and acting in these mediums of porn sites and films. If women didn't do it, men wouldn't have it to look at! Then women would truly be respected and honored...

Alas the eternal question raises its ugly head yet again.....
Is it the one who buys the sex or the one that sells it thats most guilty...?
Do you know how often in the past I have said to men who called the phone sex lines and say to me, "I bet you think me a pervert for calling." I would say, "oh no, after all I'm waiting here for you to call." But this is a good question and the facts are the facts, women don't call phone sex lines or frequent brothels or buy those filthy magazines and would all be out of business if it depended on we women to support them BUT BUT BUT women are the objects of these magazines, they are the dancers and the ones on the phones(guilty, guilty) so we're the enabelers and the partners in this filth. I realize the percentage of women is very small but its enough to make these industries prosperous and lasting. I feel that porn is here to stay and thats a sad statement to be able to make. I quit the phones after hearing from so may of you. I spoke to the men before and made notes for my book of heard their side of the story and made a good living but its time to quit and be respectable....taking a bow!

[ January 26, 2006, 07:32 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

Chatty, that was a decision you had to make based on what God was telling you. I don't think anyone here judged you for it, but I can say for myself, I prayed that you would eventually walk away from it. I'm so glad that you did, but I loved you before and I love you now!
(((HUGS)))

chatty, did I understand you to say you are quitting the phone business? If I understood right, let me be the first to congratulate you. God will honor your commitment. It may be difficult at first but God will bless the stand you are making and you will be blessed in ways you can't begin to imagine!

Applause, clapping my hands. God will provide the money for you to replace what will be gone. Love you, girl.

whether porn is infidelity or not depends on the woman asking the question...and even then it's not so much a question of infidelity as it is a question of respect...if the woman doesn't like it, then out of respect the man should not bring it 'round...
what anyone else thinks is irrelevant...

Hello, all.

I stumbled on this board with experiences the same as lot of yours. The spouse that I thought was faithful all these years viewed pornography, much to my astonishment.

"My astonishment," because he's had a lot of bad experiences with the women in his life, and he's convinced I'm going to run out on him and the marriage, or that I'm going to have an affair despite the fact that, after close to 20 years of marriage, I've never wanted anyone other than him and he knows it. How's that for irony?

I'm not saying this is a "every night" thing, and at least he had the guts to tell me me, but I thought his reasons, that I was "unavailable" to him because I'd been ill with a bronchial infection were a little much.

Now -- I'm no prude or anything, but the idea that he was sitting in front of the computer, looking at this stuff, with our son asleep in the next room and with me reading in our bedroom makes me a little queasy.

I did find out about his viewing habits, not only because of the "history" but also by accessing the temporary Internet files with the "cookies" in them. It told me the full story, and probably more than I wanted to know. Now I can add trust issues and being a snoop to this whole thing.

We've enjoyed "adult movies" together in the past, but the secrecy and stealth of this is what I don't like. Since he's confessed this, he hasn't accessed it (and yes, I've checked, and his workplace has a firewall preventing that type of thing, so as far as I know, he can't do it there) but I'm still trying to move beyond the anger and pain this is causing.

Thanks for listening and thanks for your feedback. I thought I was overreacting when I learned about this, but I guess not, not given the other posts.

In my career as a phone fantasist I have encountered many strange behaviors from these men. I have been sent thousands of dollars over the years, most from married men whose wives are also out working trying to make ends meet. I kid you not. I have spoken to men while they were watching their young children and have even heard men shut doors when their baby was crying. I would say to them, "don't you have to handle that?" They would say, "never mind just keep going." Men have called me late at night, whispering and when I asked why, they'd say, "I'm in bed and shes sleeping right next to me." Sick, oh yea!
One guy invited me (my character) to his wedding and when I didn't attend he called me from the reception banqet hall asking "why I wasn't there." Don't kid yourselves lady these men become 'addicted' to us, the phone girls, the live models on the computer screen and after awhile would do almost anything we asked including leave their wife. This is no joke and can be very damaging to a marriage. I have seen it time and time again. I know of women who have met these men and ended up living with and even marrying them. Not all women doing these job cares either, most do not and will do anything, say anything to get money...its their God! I have had men, important men call me from their offices to talk trash. I've had men mail me a credit card saying "use me, abuse me, buy anything you want, I am your slave." And when checking the limit on the cards they were substantial. I cut the cards up but many of my collegues thought I was bonkers and they use them until they are used up. Some men actually enjoy and pay to be humiliated, dominated and otherwise abused. Its not just considered a loving sexy relationship by many of these men. Some men cross dress and can't share their secret so they call and share it with us and of course we tell them how cool it is and talk them into going further and further in their quest for whatever the hell it is their looking for. Hey its no skin off the girls nose she isn't stuck with this man. Boy if you could hear some of the stories you would rip those computers out of the wall and demand they never reappear. Then again a real sicko will always find a way to excite or amuse himself outside of the marriage arena. Admit it ladies they are just WRONG and there is no excuse they can give you or anyone to justify themselves or their conduct if they are married men...Sad but true...

[ January 27, 2006, 07:14 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

Chatty, OMGosh!
I applaud you for the decision you made.

Recently, my friends have been telling me I should do "p.s. operator" recording, since I have a very soothing and sexy voice. They said this way I would not have to act on demand or anything, and that money would be made as long as the recording was listened to. Side money made as I go about my day, as I sleep, whatever.
I know that with my voice and experience on radio and tv so far, that it would be very easy.

But, I have not done it, will not do it...and I have even read the interesting pso boards....so tempting, but I really do not feel as led to do the recordings.
And I will just leave it alone : )

Congratulations, Chatty...you will be blessed!

I hope so because the bills keep coming every month an so far I have paid them with my phone job money, not sure the utility company, food stores and other companys will understand "payment by blessings." Time will tell, thanks for the kind wishes I'm gonna need them.