It has been my experience that when meeting someone new, I can pretty much tell right away if there is anything there, if something clicks. So, what I do is what suits ME. I either let it develop naturally, or I let him know right up front that while he is a very nice person, I'm just not interested. HONESTY. That's the key in my book. If you can't be honest at our age, then something wrong, I say.

So how do you enlighten men at our age? You tell them what you like, and what you don't like. You tell them what works for you, and what doesn't. This is a two-way street and I have found that most men are thrilled to find out that you don't like playing games and are willing to talk about things, AND listen, and give honest feedback. So... I say TELL UM. Plain and simple.

JJ