Cin, welcome to the site. Glad you found us.

I am going to pass on a little bit of wisdow for you to consider. My baby brother and I were talking about relationships one night and this is what he said from his male perspective.
If he took a girl out on a date and she was an every day run of the mill girl and she refused to have sex with him that night, he would respect her, be more attracted to her and want to date her again. If he took out a drop dead georgous blue eyed blonde girl(his description) and they got it on that night, he could care less about her from then on. He said most of us (men) won't turn down sex with any woman but we really don't want a first nighter as a long term relationship. We wouldn't want a woman like that for a wife that's for sure. He added yes, we are pigs...it a male thing. But loose women have to take some blame too.

I think these words are worth considering from the male point of view. Now here's my point of view.

There is nothing more precious than learning about one another and becoming true friends before lovers. There is so much you can do together, so many places to go and enjoy. Some night later on when a (((special))) moment arises, you will have a memory to share and not become ashamed or bitter because of it. You will be glad you waited.
You mentioned he came to your place inebriated that night. I wonder why he came over that way? And many other women friends(friends only?) Be careful that you don't get hurt in that case. A player is usually only looking for one nighters. Some cause for concern here, do you think?

On a lighter note...wear your worst underwear(or rip them) so that you'll be ashamed to take your clothes off.

Whatever you do, Just be careful and know that if you are planning any relationship, getting to know each other comes WAY BEFORE getting it on. You are a woman...Look after yourself. Be strong and stay strong on how to handle this situation.

Hang with us. I am sure many other replies are coming your way. Out of curiousity, what do you think is the right thing to do?

warmest welcome
chickadee