Thank you for all of your insights.

Here I want to wash my hands of all responsibility and just blame my husband for his crummy relationships and you guys give me ideas. Well, I did ask for it. [Smile]

Even though my husband frequently comments that he's glad that I'm independent and able to handle our family stuff without him, he's probably feeling left out --- even if, being a guy, he doesn't even know that that's what he feels. [Smile]

I'll talk to our daughters and ask them to consider asking Daddy to help them with something, asking him to go with them somewhere, or, God forbid, asking his opinion about something. I'm still willing to "lead the horses to water." [Smile]