hurtangel, are you in counseling at this time? Yes, I think it's improtant for your husband to be in counseling alone, but I also think there's a counselor out there who can help you sort your feelings, actions, and future. It's always best to have a professional in the mix.

I am praying for you and your husband. I am not one to say pack up your bags and leave, but I do believe in women using our God given strengths to work out hurtful situations and live the life God wants for us.