Hi Dotsie, you have a healthy attitude, and I agree whole heartedly. And I agree about preferring the descript "making love." In my case, quality counts. A big chapter in my breast cancer book will be in regards to making love during the hideous changes of the female body during and after mastectomy. A couple has to find whole new ways of relating to each other via the bodies. But what really matters in our case is the heart and soul. A vibrator can bring sexual pleasure, but it has no heart! It's like having sex with the tin man! LLL