we all have issues from the past -- not one of us made it to the age we are -- no matter what that age is -- without having good times, bad times, HORRIBLE times -- but I have to agree -- digging into the past does just that -- it brings up the past ----

you dont need to put a shrinks children thru college to figure out that you can either GROW from your experiences or you can let them suck you under

and as an optimist -- i'm here to tell you that YES !! YOU CAN JUST BE A HAPPY PERSON !!!

if there are issues that you NEED to bring up and discuss and work thru -- then i'm all for it -- but I LOVE your attitude of -- HEY -- that was THEN and this is NOW !!

psychiatry is a profession -- just like an auto mechanic -- if your car just needed a little tune up -- would you want him to tear it down and find out who built it and why ??? -- of course not --

my suggestion to any lady in need is -- COME TO THE FORUM and let all these wonderful ladies support you right into a "cure"