Thank you Dee and Saundra and Dotsie for your wonderful insights and encouragement.
I too have unstraight friends and they respect my stance and views regarding their lifestyle choices...Goodness knows, mine haven't been sterling.
I didn't choose to be brilliant (very high IQ), or poor or with vericose veins or a type A personality....geeze..I'd change with just about anyone on an issue here or there...but I think everyone who knows me knows my greatest fault is loving too much and caring too much about others at the exclusion of myself.
I don't really care what anyone else does behind their locked or open doors. I've made love to a bottle of wine or two myself when my heart was bruised, but if I were an alcoholic, I would know that I couldn't drink because I have a weakness for alcohol and that weakness could and would destroy me.
If I were a diabetic I wouldn't choose to be and I'd cry and ask God, "Why me?"...but if I wanted to live a healthy and semi normal life, I'd take my insulin and stay away from sugar.
Don't beat the prejudice drum for me. I can't hear it. It doesn't work. Just know that there is right and wrong and God didn't want any of us to suffer, but when sin entered the world through Satan, we all got a cross to bear of one sort or another....it how we choose to bear that cross that makes the difference. I won't drink to excess if you won't give in to the sin of lying with a woman as if she were a man and a man as if he were a woman...I didn't make it up...I didn't make the rules and I have a hard enough time following them myself.
There is a Hell and I hope to stay out of it. Can't speak for you or yours...just myself.