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#34588 - 02/22/05 11:51 PM
Re: Reclusiveness
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Registered: 03/12/04
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Loc: Decatur, Illinois
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Lynn,
I have a very good high paying job that is mind numbing and stressful. Unfortunately, we have gotten used to the life style and it will be hard not having that extra income. I am a customer service rep for the power company. I left work on Friday saying "I hate people,I hate people!" and in tears.
Offered an early buy out, 193 asked for it, 16 didn't get offered it, I am about 6th on the list that didn't get the early buy out. I am 55 and can retire and draw a small pension from them. The trick is to get enough money coming in from a part time job, my writing career or something to help us get by. I have just finished paying $12,000 in credit card debt and am now working on one car payment. I want to leave in May, but not sure if it will be an option or not. Sorry for the long response.
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#34589 - 02/23/05 12:35 AM
Re: Reclusiveness
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Registered: 11/11/04
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Loc: Colorado
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Oh Sherri, don't be sorry for the "long response." I sooo understand your feelings re: the job and people. Dealing with people all day is stressful to the MAX! I am so sorry for your tears. I bet you were disappointed when you didn't make the buy out list. Paying off $12,000 in credit card debt is an enormous task. Congratulations on not carrying that into retirement. Love and Light, Lynn
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#34590 - 02/23/05 03:03 AM
Re: Reclusiveness
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Last night I picked up an issue of Prevention Magazine and there on the cover it said:
THE # NUMBER ONE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR HEALTH....Surprise---its not Diet or Exercise!
RECONNECT was the answer and the article that followed was amazing as I too have become a recluse. I'll try and give you the heart of the article. Studies show that the fewer connections we have at home, at work, and in the community, the more likely we are to get sick, flood our brains with anxiety causing chemicals and die prematurely. Connectedness is as much a protective factor - probably more - than lowering your blood pressure, losing weight quitting smoking, or wearing your seat belt. Says pyschiatrist Edward M. Hallowell, MD, instructor in psychiatry at Harvard Medical school and author of:
CONNECT: 12 Vital Ties That Open Your Heart, Lengthen Your Life, & Deepen Your Soul.
(Pantheon, 1999)It's the unacknowledged key to emotional and psychical health, and thats a proven medical fact. This article was lenghtly and so what we are discussing in this post. I am ordering this book and strongly advise many of you do the same....
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#34593 - 02/23/05 01:37 PM
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Registered: 03/12/04
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Loc: Decatur, Illinois
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Alan Jackson has a song out that says what I feel. My heart feels as lonely as a Monday morning Church.
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#34595 - 02/23/05 05:35 PM
Re: Reclusiveness
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Registered: 11/08/03
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Sherri, When I have to do things I hate, sometimes it helps to identify exactly what is most difficult, fearful, repulsive, etc. then try to "re-frame" it. Maybe we could help with that if we knew specifically what part of your job is most difficult for you. quote: Originally posted by Sherri: Alan Jackson has a song out that says what I feel. My heart feels as lonely as a Monday morning Church.
As I read Alan Jackson's lines, I "re-framed" it. I reminded myself that "A" church is just a building and on Monday morning it is empty and lonely. But "The" Church is in the hearts of man and if God is there it is never empty and never lonely. You may have already tried that, but maybe it would help. smile
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#34596 - 02/23/05 07:51 PM
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Registered: 11/11/04
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Loc: Colorado
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Dianne, I'm sorry you experienced something traumatic. I was concerned when you said your colitis was flaring up, which, as you know, can be related to stress. Yes, you do help women every day. Try to make yourself go to the counselor. Even if you are not ready what do you have to lose by just keeping the appointment with the counselor? You have nothing to lose, except the hold this event is having over you. I know you need to be patient with yourself, but if you are suffering from PTSD, then you also know you have got to go. Please try. Love and Light, Lynn
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