Dejavu, like in most things, everything with "too much" ...is too much. Too much alone is not healthy and too much social life is not healthy. There is a happy medium. I've yet to find that medium myself. I chalk it up to the fact that I work too much, and when we have time off Hubby and I usually do things together. I know, though, as soon as I stop working, I'm going to do like Chatty does and join writing clubs, art clubs ...oh I think I'll be busier then, than now. I've also found it's not healthy to depend on your children for your social life. That can become a burden for them, and they tend to draw back.