Crosstitch and Dotsie, my heart breaks for you girls when I read your posts..I can physically feel your pain when I hear what you are enduring...I went through the same thing with my Father for about 6 years and then my mother in law for a short time...it feels so unnatural as the child of your parent to be faced with making the decisions that affect every minute of their lives.

My father was what my husband called a "malcontent"..after my Mom died he wanted to move...so we moved him and then he wanted to move again..so we moved him again..at that time he began to exhibit some signs of dementia..and then I realized all of the moves he kept insisting on were because he was trying to run away from the inevitable...maybe his lonely life without my Mom or perhaps even death..when I came to understand that I felt unbelievably sad and it allowed me to feel much more compassionate toward him. However...his mood swings were a constant source of upsetment for me because I wanted him to be if not happy then at least content...My husband and I handled all of this on our own because my sister was completely missing in action..it's good that you ladies have other siblings to share with...I held so much in because I didn't want to whine to my friends and sound like a downer and as a result I ended up with a wicked case of IBS which later resulted in a bleeding ulcer...Like you Ann...I cried alot...the best advice I can give is to find someone you can talk to..and share all of your feelings...no matter how terrible you think they sound...and tell yourself you are not a bad person for feeling these things..no one wants to watch our parents go through this awful disease!!! My best friend is going through this with her Mom right now..and the best gift I can give her is to just allow her to unload on me..negative feelings and all. So I'm here for you Ann if you ever just want to talk. PM me and I can call you.

Dotsie I am thrilled that you have so much support for your FIL..and having him that close to you will be such a blessing..that way you can pop in for 15 minutes just to say hi without making a day out of it like some have to do when they have a long drive to and from the home.

God Bless you both ..and please know you are in my prayers and have my ear whenever you need it..