Dotsie...I'm sorry for just now reading this tread...how sad for your FIL and how hard it must be on the two of you watching this man struggle with this horrible illness. I wish there was something more the facilities would do. To me, if a man falls out of a wheel chair and does this type of damage to himself they would keep him restrained somehow...drugs just makes it easier for the caregivers and makes the patient zombies. What kind of quality of life is that? It's so sad and until the laws are changed you're fighting an uphill battle. I think we boomers are in for a lot of neglect when we reach this stage if something is changed.
Sending you hugs, Dotsie and praying everyday for your FIL and family.