NY Woman, I've encountered the same thing (harshness, intimidation) here at times. It always sends me into hibernation for awhile, but fortunately, there is more kindness and love here than harsh words to keep me coming back. I also come more to give comfort and support back now than to seek it...which is not only a nice change, but evidence of the healing power of this place and these women, for it's the love I've experienced here which has healed me to be able to come and pay love forward to others. There will always be risk when sharing our hearts in such an open public forum, but for me, the risks have all been worth it.
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When you don't like a thing, change it.
If you can't change it, change the way you think about it.

(Maya Angelou)