I'll be married 33 years this March. It's interesting because my husband is really a great guy, but I'm burnt out at this point. I spent many years dealing with his hostile family and he never gave me the support I needed to survive them. I divorced them when I turned 40. It was them or him, so I made the better choice given that my kids were still young. But even when it comes to raising my children, I'm always the bad guy. He has no backbone. I think he doesn't trust and respect himself, but that makes it hard for me to respect him and you know that's not good for a marriage. There's more, of course, but I think that when a women reaches menopause, she begins to think more about herself - the kids are grown, you've done your job, and now it's about you.

I hope the new year holds wonderful things for you.