Wow, what a great conversation.

I think you are realizing that it's not the fact that a son that age is living at home. The bigger issue is how he treats his dad and you.

Does the son have anyone else in his life at this point (in the immediate area)?

I'm thinking that if you talk to the son, and the relationship doesn't work, he may feel like it's his fault. I'd hate that to happen. I'm thinking, if anyone is to blame, it's the man in the middle because he won't draw boundaries. That's all he has to do and he could have his son and you.
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