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#180063 - 04/12/09 09:29 PM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: dancer9]
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Good grief Dancer...I can't imagine what that must have been like for you...for you to eventually move on from all that takes a strong woman. You said you were pregnant...does your child know how he/she was conceived? Do you still have contact with his/her father? My goodness...I am horrified. Bless your heart.
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#180066 - 04/12/09 10:34 PM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: Dee]
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Registered: 11/15/05
Posts: 2798
Loc: NM, transplant from NJ
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I was 27, still too young. Last/final marriage....39. Just right if it were the first marriage for the both of us. Definitely some challenges ensued....but would not trade him for anyone elses!
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#180309 - 04/15/09 11:32 PM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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I have never been married. The idea has never interested me. I know that is odd, but it is me.
The first time I was fully dedicated to a man, however, was at age 19. I would have turned the moon into the sun, if I could have, for a man that had absolutely no interest in doing the same for me.
It wasn't until I was in my late 40's that I met the man of my life. I'd marry him in a flash, but neither of us care anymore. Well, I've never married either. I met my partner when I was 31. (I'm 50 now.) We've been together since.
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#213490 - 06/19/11 02:31 AM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 06/19/11
Posts: 1
Loc: 1011 S 39th St, Temple, TX 765...
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I married when I was 25 years. I think I was too young for marriage. But now I am thinking that I was wrong. Now, I am enjoying my life with my life partner.
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#213497 - 06/19/11 09:29 PM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: AlexaVega]
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Registered: 03/11/10
Posts: 3212
Loc: Illinois
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Hi AlexaVega,
Welcome to our forum, we're delighted you have visited and hope you will become a regular.
I married the first time at 21 and still in college. It was 1973 and the height of the free love era.
I think I knew it was a mistake at the time, but I wanted to live with that man, and I knew my parents would never allow it unless we were married. My father had once told me that if I EVER didn't come home at night, I didn't need to come home ever again.
So we decided to get married to make our parents happy.
The first inkling I had that it was a mistake was at the alter. The minister was going through the vows, and he said the phrase "til death do you part." I stood there and my brain was whirling. It went something like this: "'Til death. Damn, that's a long time... I don't think I can agree to that.
BUT there are 200 people behind me here in the church, who have given us presents, and who have come to the wedding. If I back out now, it will be so embarrassing.
Yeah. But TIL DEATH. All I really want to do is LIVE with him.
So on the spot I made a secret pact with myself that I would mentally modify the vows to "as long as it's good."
Ten years and two kids later, I was still good with it, but I found out he was cheating on me, and we went to counseling.
I told him that I could forgive him and we could stay married if he would agree to give up his lover and not cheat again. He told me he could not do that.
So there was no choice, but to divorce.
Five years later, on the verge of turning 36, I married again. That was the correct decision, and Steve and I have been happily married for 22 years now. He adopted my kids after their birth father died, and things are "all good" now.
I really think we are too young in our 20s to marry for life. BUT our hormones sure are raging at that time...
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#213610 - 06/28/11 07:57 PM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 05/18/10
Posts: 18
Loc: South Carolina
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I married the first time at age 17 just 5 months after graduating from high school. He was 22. I thought I was so mature and knew exactly what I was doing and no one could have talked me out of it, but I seriously had no clue. We were divorced 7 years later, and the truth is that he really wasn't a horrible, abusive person. As I actually became an adult, we were totally not right for each other and we both knew it. I remarried at age 28 and have been blessed to be married to this great guy for 31 years. We plan to grow old together and always enjoy our frequent moments of laughter! I always caution younger folks to really know who they are before they jump into such a serious commitment as marriage. The one positive from my first marriage was my son, who was born when I was 20, and the 3 beautiful grandchildren in my life. I don't blame my ex-husband for the marriage not working--he had really married a child.
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#214090 - 07/31/11 06:06 PM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: jabber]
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Boomer in Chief
Registered: 03/11/10
Posts: 3212
Loc: Illinois
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We haven't been out yet either, but I am about to go do some grocery shopping. I really don't look forward to this task, but i do like to eat, and I know home-cooked foods are so much better for us...
We ate glorified leftovers: Steve had some leftover chicken fettuccini from a dinner we ate out last Monday and I turned it into a carbonara sort of thing: I made a small amount of white sauce since whatever had been on the pasta originally had sort of been absorbed into the noodles. Seasoned it with some cheese, then added a leftover chicken breast that I chopped up, frozen peas and about six strips of that pre-cooked bacon Oscar Mayer is now selling. Having it around seems decadent, but is also very convenient. and of course, the leftover noodles. Suddenly had a large bowl full of decadent deliciousness.
Now that I am full, it seems like as good a time as any to get groceries. Not to mention that I am totally out of some crucial stuff like laundry detergent, milk, juice, bread, etc...
Edited by Anne Holmes (07/31/11 06:06 PM)
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#214103 - 08/01/11 11:13 AM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: jabber]
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Registered: 12/30/05
Posts: 3027
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Anne can I ask...the chicken...from a meal out..do you ask to take some uneaten portion home..I cant recall seeing anyone so that here...so is it common in U.S.?
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#214106 - 08/01/11 02:50 PM
Re: At what age did you first marry?
[Re: Mountain Ash]
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Boomer in Chief
Registered: 03/11/10
Posts: 3212
Loc: Illinois
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Mountain Ash, I know we are getting off topic here so I have moved my answer to "Going Green" since this is sort of a "recycling topic." My post is here: Restaurant Doggie Bags
Edited by Anne Holmes (08/01/11 03:10 PM)
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