Ellemm, that seems like wise counsel and another perspective.

Orchid, my parents moved to a very posh retirement community, as distinct from a nursing home. They paid something like $350,000 for a condo, and then pay fees of about 4-5K per month, that includes all maintenance and health care. It has a nursing wing and an Alzheimer's wing if you get sick. There's a dining area with a grand piano and someone playing music while they eat dinner around an indoor fountain. There are frequent cultural trips into the city, and lectures etc., a swimming pool, exercise gym. All in all it's like a resort and being allowed in is much coveted in that area (you have to have interviews and have insiders vouch for you, as in a country club).

And _still_ we have these problems. My brothers believe that this is their way of moving folks along, in order to be able to sell the condo again. I tend to see it more as a philosophy that says believes that all old people become feeble and forgetful and need to be isolated.