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#175889 - 02/26/09 09:49 PM
Re: activities/hobbies with S.O.
[Re: yonuh]
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Registered: 11/15/05
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Loc: NM, transplant from NJ
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Gosh, we are together 24/7 so there ya go!
But there are times he goes to Lowes and I don't. We do NOT do grocery shopping together.....only rarely if I beg and he has nothing to do, which is not often.
Market together.....watch some movies (I'm not a SciFi person). Eat, play Cribbage.
Go see his kids together. Play doggie football with all five dogs. He gardens, I don't. But I did help shovel the cow manure the other day. (got a fresh load!!)
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#176072 - 03/01/09 05:28 PM
Re: activities/hobbies with S.O.
[Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 11/15/05
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Loc: NM, transplant from NJ
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Di,how long have you two been together?
Will be 13 years this Sept. 26. He's been retired since 2001 so more than half our marriage it's been 24/7 for us. A learning experience to say the least.
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#176438 - 03/06/09 12:42 AM
Re: activities/hobbies with S.O.
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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I have thought about this chatty being a guy 16 yrs. older than I. To me, it's not a terrifying thought. And it may well be because I was solo for a number of years before I met him. I also think over time, it just gets more complicated as women and men become older, it's tough to meet alot of men without their issues of the past or personal idiosyncracies that are not easy to live with on a daily basis.
In all honesty, it would be surprising if I should (most likely I will), outlive my partner, that I could find another guy that I could share passionately and contendedly a life with him. By then, I would worry more if he was healthy enough so that we could even enjoy life together.
There are inherent advantages of starting off with a life partner who is reasonably healthy and can participate positively in mind, spirit and body with some shared activities together before time runs out. I seriously believe that one should not wait until retirement to do some travel which requires some tolerance to weather changes, physical activity and cultural changes. When I am sweating it out snowshoeing in the mountains or on the bike, or just hiking...I think to myself NOW is the time to do this type of stuff when my body feels right and strong.
And not wait around until after retirement. So that's why living in a condo now, so one can spend the free time (instead of cutting the lawn, house repairs,etc.), so one's vacation can be truly spent travelling, not looking after a house.
Edited by orchid (03/06/09 12:44 AM)
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#176477 - 03/06/09 04:26 PM
Re: activities/hobbies with S.O.
[Re: orchid]
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Loc: Nevada
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I think you're absolutely correct Orchid. When I was a widow with one young son and met Chet who was 44, well established in business and could care for the two of us, and did. I never looked ahead and his death never occurred to me.
I do know now what my relatives meant back then when saying, my God girl, he's as old as your parents. I never equated his age with my parents ages, my parents were OLD and boring, but not Chet, he was handsome, oh so sexy, and far from boring. I saw his age with different eyes than I saw my parents ages. Does that make sense to anyone besides me?
I know now how lonely it can be and how as you said above, these older men I am meeting have issues of one kind or another, usually health, or grown, jealous children.
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