Dotsie thank you for your long post.

Today was THE day. My mother’s first night in the senior home.

I thought several times about what you wrote, Dotsie on “therapeutic lying.” And used it at a record breaking rate this morning,…especially when I told my Mom we will load all the cartons of mail and bring them to her this week. (cringe)…good thing her short term memory isn’t what it used to be.

She took the AD only one day, and claims she got diaharea from it. I haven’t had a chance to read the side effects. I also plan to visit her doctor and see if he can make me custodian for her mail. I appreciate you letting me know the medication doesn’t always work. I’m afraid my mother is taking a rapid down spin. I am SO happy she’s in the senior home now.

The staff is just wonderful. I felt like hugging all of them. For me it’s like an extended family helping out as well as they can.

MustangGal, they offer a variety of extra activities; about 4 every day,…from newspaper reading and discussions to gymnastics, singing, and bus excursions. It is so nice there, that I told my sons, when my time comes that’s where I would want to be.

How is my mother trasitioning? She is glad that her life will be easier,..but she doesn’t like me very much right now. I have been strict about her mail. I’m afraid she is looking at me as if I were her enemy. I suppose demence has begun. But my relief to know that she is safe is bigger than anything.

Thank you everyone for asking, your prayers, 'chatty, and just caring.