Dotsie, what an honest message you gave here. Yes, I can relate to the organizing example. Also, wow, did I ever have an eye opening experience with my Mom and step father this month. How can I be nearly 55 and just now see with new eyes how negative and controlling my step f is? I let him off easy in the book, that's for sure. Was I in denial? Did I minimize so I would not go crazy? So, in response to your example, he would open the newspaper first thing in the morning, and read the headline, and say something negative. And I asked him, "Do you expect me to respond to that?" He'd get the mail, and throw it on the counter, and complain about the junk mail, and I'd ask, "Do you expect me to respond to that?" I realized what a robot I had been, jumping on his band wagon, yeah, it's all crap, and then we die. Got that out, now back to EW.