That is the point Dotsie...
the ethos (and I only speak for myself)was left so high up in the air and unresolved.GOOD women tried to aid the forum and you untimately.In my own case out of love..for all I have gained here and out of respect.

I prayed for a whole night for the God Willing to keep my family intact.Its been hard and is ongoing.

In that turmoil I had the clarity to see that a living entity as the BWS is has to be nurtured and fed..you have here the talent to do this and my non sharing says that something in me died..so I analyised further and saw my voice is not valued here.
decided that to play the GAMES speaking only to some answering others ignoring some not responding was not good enough for me.

DJ should really ask all the women who have left...I see many fine contributors in the archives see if there is a common thread...when you started this post DJ I TRULY pray it was in authentic caring not some experiment.

We are not a commodity .yes new people will come along but what about the hearts and souls of those who are wounded.

in society those who break rules are entitled to be told they have done so...if they dont see for themselves that they have done so. Perhaps moderation may be a step to consider.
I DO realise everyone has a different moral reasoning.
But the loud voices are not always correct.

My final contribution to this post.
Mountain ash