Dear Kate, it is admirable that you can’t let your son go. But it’s painful to see how your love for your son hurts you over and over again.

By not letting him go; you are letting yourself go. He is taking you with him, down an endless road.

You have to make a decision. Do you want your life to continue with the hurt and worries that you repeatedly suffer? Or do you love yourself enough to stop following him in his own chosen rotten path.

I know it is easier to give advice hear. And I know if I were in a similar situation I would have fought like you have been fighting for your son’s life. But there does come a time where enough is enough. You may love your son, but no person, whether he is your son or spouse, has a right to make you miserable. I repeat; You must love yourself more, than you love your son.

I know you just wanted to vent, but I have been following your ordeal and I just have to remind you; the only thing that can change is you.