Doris, I so like your story and it sounds like you did get a good handle on yourself and took the time and effort to know yourself and what you wanted. That is so important.

I wish I had a way to convey your story to my SO's daughter. Long story but that girl is 33 and it alternately drives me insane to deal with her and breaks my heart because she is one of those "desperate" people. In her short time, she's been married once and has had 5 other partners. The current one? Recently separated, not even divorced. She moves just about every year to be with a new partner or to break up with a partner. Plus she's now a mom to a small 2-year tot. She finds men to help support her but when they don't "meet" all of her demands, she walks on them and has a replacement immediately. I just never know what to say to her.