I agree with the "A" and lying issues. Yet, I've evolved from being scared of being alone to being scared of ensnaring myself in erroneous choices.

My ex would often say its all about money with me (I'd put it away for the future, use coupons, sales, watch the meter, etc.); yet, he sure spent a lot of money on himself, i.e., Harleys, vehicles, cothes, women, booze, etc. I now finally have my own horse (stable boarded) and home and hope we can both be on the same property some day.

I lost my career and retirement. Yet, I'm recovering. Although he made more money than I, somehow he was the freeloader. He lives alone in a 3200 sf home with new Harleys and HD Ford Truck, divorced 4X, and sits at his personal bar until drunk each night (or looking for sex partners on the web). I don't have much, but less is MORE!