Lossing you Mom will have shaped how you feel at present.
But remember your daughter lost a Grandma.
You are to be commended to saying you feel angry.Many people smile(while gritting their teeth) and owning up to authentic feelings is ok in the right place.This can be the that place.But you daughter could process the feelings you exhibit in a different way and be unable to understand.
Could you be kind to her perhaps in a letter telling that you love her .
How are your hormones.could this also feature.If there is a problem there you could share this too.Daughter often mimic their Mothers menopause and this knowledge could be helpful later for her.
Do tell us more about her..good things..and I know we will enjoy sharing too.
Mountain ash