SueC..a P.S. for you..YES it´s normal to feel strange,guilty about putting your own needs before other peoples..it´s a new way of doing things for you..it´s a new concept..and you probably don´t know HOW to put your needs first..and the balance of when to help and when to remember what you need..it´s not easy. It takes most of us all our lives, I would think, to learn to balance on this tight of rope of my needs vs other´s needs. AND you can go on learning this within a marriage as well outside of it. It probably depends on the atmosphere and feel in your marriage/a marriage..if there is enough space given for both to learn the "balance act" that is life..

Just another thought along the way..
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"some sacred place.."