I had the same lesson, Princess! When I was young, I actually had boyfriends ask me, "Why don't you come to me and lean on me when you have problems??" It was amazing to them that I dealt and didn't even involve them! I was so used to being on my own, as you, no doubt were, that it never occured to me!

I retrained myself to go to the person(s) who loved me and cared for me for help or an ear to listen or even advice if I needed it! It was a huge hole in my life not having anyone there for me when I didn't let anyone be there. I didn't know how! I still remind myself that I can reach out if I need to!

I'm happy for you that you learned this! I suspect you are a bit better at it than me... I am SO independent that it is a fault!

dancer9