Gimster,
I'm so sorry for the "trap," you are in as far as caring for your mother. I understand it all too well! I could also take my mother's trust fund and care for her myself but I just can't take all that responsibility or the memories of my broken childhood!
It's hard, I know, to think that you MIGHT be able to do something but remember: You are a great daughter and you are doing the very BEST you can do! You needn't EVER feel guilty that you cannot do more.
We do our best by our parents. Sometimes situation become hard and harder still to watch happen. We have to be strong and deal with only what we can.
You are a good woman, your posts tell that!
I wish you the very best and hope your mother does as
well as she can facing what she is, I'm sure everyone will do what they can,
Warm regards,
dancer - nine