I raised my sons as churchgoers. We were very active in the church community. I sang in the gospel group and they were alter boys for many years.

Now neither of them attends church. My oldest son says he doesn't even believe in God. My younger son believes deeply, but is not a church goer.

I think it has something to do with the German masses. They are so solemn with heavy, slow, organ music. The priests are so old and unimaginative, and the atmosphere is anything but joyous. I'm not a church goer anymore either. So I can understand my sons.

When my older son has a child, he says he will return to church. Infact both of our sons says they are thankful for their religious upbringing. It gave them a chance to chose if they want to continue or not as adults.

I’ve led them to still waters. It’s up to them if they want to drink from it.