Go Songbird and your grey glory! Love your fearlessness.

I hope to be like that one day. When I get noticeably grey, I probably think seriously of getting an edgier/funkier haircut style. I am willing to spend abit of money on quality chic haircuts that don't require much upkeep.

One of the most strikingly beautiful women I've ever seen was in her 40's with shiny, healthy straight silver hair and it was so healthy that it moved and caught the light.
What I think is unattractive about gray hair is when its dry and brittle and permed and sticks out like a Qtip all over the head but that doesn't look good with any color.

Thanks, Orchid and Dancer.
GRAY hair does turn more difficult to manage. The ends get dryer and you need to be pickier about what products to use or not. I am trying to find products that work for my hair and keep it conditioned and shiny. Today, I'm on my way to get it trimmed. I need to be presentable.

I still have a real problem with gray on me. I don't know if it will ever change.

Grey hair..for a long time I coloured the stray grey hairs.Only now and then and I had a perfect match with one product.Then as grey more came it had to be oftener.then roots were popping after just two weeks.So I had a really short haircut when I was in the city.Still some tips of the semi permenant then finally all my own colour...I like it.It needs a suitable shampoo as its a different texture but the hair is evenly spaced and looks ok.
This week I fell and cut my head on the hairline so I used a medicated shampoo..its awful and shows how shampoo is important.
I do notice other peoples roots and few people keep them just so.That piebald thing I think is awful.Especially on elevators and its then I am glad I am as I am.
Mountain ash

Songbird, There is a brand: Pureology, that is good for your type of hair problem. It is pricy but when you use it, you need so little, it lasts forever. It is conditioning and the shampoo is the same. It stays where you put it on your head when you apply it, (even the shampoo,) and is easier to work with that way. It is also thicker than other shampoos to do that. The conditioner is the same. It stays on your hair where you rub it until you decide to spread it through your hair so it is thicker and easy to give yourself some extra conditioning by waiting a few min. to take it off. Again, it is called "Pureology," or it might be "Purology," but regardless, it is some hair dressers choice for themselves. If you dye your hair, it is also amazing for hair that is dry due to color.
I know of these things from being a hair model for 15 years.

Best of luck, Song bird, I'm sure you are lovely.
dancer

Dianne, I've spent a LOT of time in MN! Is that where you are now? I simply LOVE that state! It's kind to artists, takes care of their people, and the people there are very kind. I've worked there too. I started early in my career at the MN Dance Theater on Hennipen(sp.) and have worked there, playing with Prince at his Glam Slam club when he was there, even being there with him and Miles Davis! MN is a great state, I always say! I'd better slow down until I know if you are there, but if you are, yes, that red will help you separate out from all those blondes there!
dancer

Wow, such differing views girls! I'm going grey and just leaving it...I call them my "wisdom hairs"! They show I have survived and learned!

I'm a "wash and go" kind of gal and don't mess with my hair at all. I used to be really precious about it but having lost it all in chemo in 1998, don't get real hung up on it now (other than trimming those little wings that sprout up overnight.) I've never colored it.

As an olive-skinned brunette, I'd look like Barf City as a blond. MAJORLY Barf City, y'know? Currently 25/75% salt/pepper. I heard all the rumors about white hairs growing in thicker or wiry, but no such luck here. I would've liked wiry for a change. Mine is baby-fine, thin, and like soft fur. I'm OK with the silver but still think I need to go purple at least once.

As far as those shaved or overly-plucked eyebrows: how do we spell C-H-E-M-O EYEBROWS?? (Insert barfing icon here. Literally.) If you're going through chemo, you have an excuse for looking like that -- but WHY would anyone else want to look like they were???