I remarried a man that had not been wed before. He had NO kids. Thank God. My friend had never been married before when she married that guy with 5 grown children. And 4 of them had families of their own. But still the grief tht lady has sustained is unbelievable. The woman was successful, self-reliant, and financially stable. Now she has nothing! Chatty has the right idea. Go for guys without kids!
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