Kate, I just saw this. I'm sorry for all the chaos that you have been enduring sense your son turned around and went the other way. You are strong and so right to move on with your life, no matter how hard it is. I've an alcoholic sister and she can cause great pain if in my life.

You sound as if you are holding up but I'm just sorry you have to "hold up," at all! Still, they say, "Time heals all wounds," and I believe that your son will heal his addiction one day, some time. It is usually when they decide.

Did you know that statistics say that addicts quit with the same rate as with or without therapy? The therapy, I believe, is good for them and can help them know themselves and their addiction but he may quit one day because he decides.

I pray that is the case. I've sons and I can't imagine what you must be going through except to know how a friend of mine suffered as her son acted out on drugs and stealing. A therapist eventually helped her to get out of his life but it was so very hard for her. She knew his childhood was rough and was blaming herself.

Truthfully, a lot of us have bad childhoods and do not become addicts.

In your case you are an excellent mother and your son still has these problems. Remember, you are an excellent mother and have faith if you possibly can. I keep you in my thoughts!

dancer