Kate,
I understand and I'm sorry you have this burden. It must be very, very hard to finally let go when you must. I know a bit about it, but with my sister. I have two son's and am lucky in their behavior. I've seen many a child go the wrong way in their peer group. In fact, I had a best friend who had a son similar to yours who had a terrible time letting go and letting him land on his own woobly feet and know he needed help. She kept trying to take him in or get him a place to stay even as people in authority told her to drop him and let him deal with the life he was making. In the end she had to let him go and she took more and more damage to her life until she did. It is easy to SAY let him go and I know it's another to actually do it!

I hope he get's his life together and realizes deeply that he needs help. I wish you strength in what you must do to help him do that in letting him go.

You sound like you have gone beyond what most parents would do in a case like this and taken a lot of hurt for it. I'm sorry.

The best of luck with this and please keep us posted?

It is not your fault, you know that, right? Addiction is a disease and we cannot take responsibility for another's problem with it, they must take it on. I hope he does.

I'll keep you in my thoughts!

dancer