I don't know if this has been discussed here before. But I could use some advice anyway.

My husband's family has always been difficult. As they get older, it only seems to be getting worse. Up until a few years ago, I was little Mary Sunshine, who kept the family together. They all loved me then, but I eventually ended up having to get therapy for my clinical depression. One of the things I learned I had to do was avoid situations that I couldn't control and relationships that cause me pain.

Unfortunately, my husband's family falls into this catagory most of the time. He knows I want to avoid them as much as possible and goes along with it. His mother and his siblings appear to have forgotten all the good things we've done for them and blame us for everything that goes wrong.

This whole situation has me really down, and I don't see it changing anytime soon. ANy advice on how to balance my intense dislike for these people with my need and desire to be supportive of my wonderful husband?

Thanks.