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#116131 - 04/23/07 04:32 PM
Re: I need someone to talk to
[Re: katebcca]
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Registered: 09/26/04
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Hannelore, It takes guts to do what you're doing and I admire you for taking these steps. When I left 'he' said, "Don't think you're ever coming home again!" Duh...."I didn't leave to come back MR!" Second call was "PLEASE come home!" Yeah.....sure. He disrespected me on the day of my Mother's funeral and I never looked back. I haven't given him a second thought since unless it is to post here. Hannelore, I am telling you, if you are happier being away from him, spread your wings and fly. You are quite capable of looking after "YOU" You'll be just fine. You have my support 100% in this. You go girl! If it sounds like I am encouraging you, well yes I am.
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#116133 - 04/23/07 04:50 PM
Re: I need someone to talk to
[Re: katebcca]
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Registered: 12/30/05
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Hannelore keep a brave heart my dear. Mountain ash
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#116135 - 04/23/07 05:34 PM
Re: I need someone to talk to
[Re: Mountain Ash]
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Registered: 02/24/04
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Angelika, Dear friend, you and I have spoken of this problem many times before privately, and apparently all the things you have tried have failed. That says it ALL! He is stuborn, mean spirited and unwilling to change, even to be kind for the time your wonderful mother has left on this earth and especially when you said all she has ever shown to him was love and kindness as if he were her own son. His behavior was unthinkable and I for one think he needed a wake up call. If you're leaving doesn't change his attitude then so long as your mother is alive, stay apart. Stay with your mom if thats an option, and you can finally have all the quality time you want together, without his badgering and bullying you about it.
He is such a good husband in all other ways as you have said, and that makes this such an unnecessary and evil situation. BUT, like a mouse in a maze he needs to learn the acceptable course and follow it. Love you as always, hang tight, stay firm! Chats
Edited by chatty lady (04/23/07 05:39 PM)
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#116136 - 04/23/07 05:59 PM
Re: I need someone to talk to
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 02/19/07
Posts: 248
Loc: Australia/ U.S. websites
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Hannelore, A new day is dawning on your brand new life. Congratulations! You will be fine, I know it. I separated from my hub 10 or so years ago - just couldn't stand his arrogant, obstinant, pig headed, self righteous attitude any longer, so I know how you feel. I haven't looked back and nor will you. I believe everyones human right is to be treated with dignity and respect. You certainly don't deserve the treatment he handed out, nobody does. Enjoy your new found freedom and rejoice in your courage, bravery amd foresight. It's not easy sometimes, so give yourself a big pat on the back. We're here for you. Love to your Mum.
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#116138 - 04/23/07 06:53 PM
Re: I need someone to talk to
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 11/24/06
Posts: 2930
Loc: Belfast/Northern Ireland
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wow that was a change, surprised me as much as it sounds as if it surprised you.
so far so good in relation to how you feel. Play it by ear (is that a saying their?) take it dailie and make your desisions dailie, listen to your hart and your mind. What ever your desisions are or will be you know we will be heer for whatever it is you need.
sleep well tommorows a whole new world in some respects.
love celtic
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#116139 - 04/23/07 06:59 PM
Re: I need someone to talk to
[Re: celtic_flame]
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Registered: 11/18/05
Posts: 789
Loc: Aptos, California
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Hannelore, Wow! Big hugs! I agree with all who say that once you get past the "free at last" feelings, take some time to think through what you really want in life -- whether in or out of the marriage. And, make sure you don't give it all away financially, just to be free.
Hugs again, Casey
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