Well, girlfriends, this is a sad day. My mother had exploratory surgery. It is discoered that she has cancer in her lung, in her chest wall, and elsewhere. The cancer is so extensive that it is inoperable. My mother and stepfather live in AZ. So I will be flying from CO to AZ in a few days to help my mother make the transition from the hospital to home. I have a feeling that she will refuse the only treatment available to her, which is chemo and/or radiation. This makes her cancer terminal. She had breast cancer 20 years ago. She had a mastectomy but refused chemo/radiation. I don't blame her. I had no symptoms from my breast cancer, but the chemo nearly killed me. My grandmother had breast cancer and she will be 101 this year. I had a dream that my mother and grandmother "went" at the same time. I also had a dream that I would be staying in my mother's house without her there. I am putting my real estate on hold for now to go to AZ to see how I can care for my mom and step f. My younger brother (he is 40 something) lives near them and he is a good guy with 3 kids. I don't know...Life is difficult.