Update...my SIL finally changed his address...he's been distance but not unreachable. It amazes me how step-children can't stand for their step-parent having any say in what they do even when it is an invasion on the step-parent. I've ignored his behavior and continue to keep in touch with him like before. He's slowly thawing out albeit slow.
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Dee
"They will be able to say that she stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away....and surely it has not.....she adjusted her sails" - Elizabeth Edwards