Mountain, if you are wondering if she is unwell, have you asked her? Also, have you shared that you feel unheard? I'm not suggesting this if you think she needs you right now, but is there a way to step away from the relationship for a bit. Maybe, just take a little break? If so, she may ask you why and then you could tell her...

This is just off the top of my head. I'll think some more.
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