Father's Day dilemma

A friend shared this personal experience and I wanted to pass it on...

She and her DH work for the same company. They offered a steak lunch to all the fathers. When her DH walked up to the counter, he was given a steak. He, being so honest, said that he was not able to be a Dad. The lady took it away and said, "oh, you get the barbecue"!

Now tell me that that is not rude! I'd would have said "Well, you have a Dad's heart. Here's one for you anyway".

One time I'd gone to church and they handed ALL the women a gift.....mother or not!

One of the ten commandments says "Honor they father and thy mother". It does not way WHEN! Why does a pagan holiday have to hurt so many? His wife felt SO badly that she told him she'd get him the biggest steak and make it JUST for him!

I give up trying to figure people out...

I feel badly for the man...his wife sounds like a sweetheart and I'm glad she said what she did.

HA, you're right, Dee. Sometimes we just have to bear it.....without the grinning!

That is really horrible!! People just don't think sometimes.

Maybe it would be better if the company didn't single out people for special dinners in the first place? I can see taking the Sales division out to lunch for doing a good job, but parenting status has nothing to do with being a good employee. That's like rewarding people for being tall, or good looking, or something. I'm sure people meant well, but why have a lunch like this in the first place? I would call it poor, or thoughtless, management.

I'll admit I have never thought of Father's Day as pagan. I tend to assume something pagan is associated with pagan beliefs rather than not specifically Christian. I'd say it's a Hallmark/secular holiday.

I agree on the secular holiday.

I've never heard of a company rewarding parents like that.

He may not have children, but he's certainly married to the right woman.

How stupid, inconsiderate and ignorant.

Oh sorry, I guess I mean secular, not pagan.

Yes, he is married to the right woman. They've struggled for many years with health issues etc. So, that is the least they needed.

Thanks for the support, ya'll.

I'm in total agreement, Ellen. It's as if he didn't do his homework or something! Gosh, sometimes we are treated like we didn't DO something right. When in fact, childlessness is a physiological/health issue...not a behavior!

Well, I'd be equally against taking all the single or nonparents out as well; just has nothing whatsoever to do with their work. I'm glad I've never heard of a company doing this before.

To me this smacks of junior high where you had softball teams and the ones who could hit the best, or run the fastest, were chosen first and the rest were left standing, singled out...sticking out like a sore thumb. How thoughtless of that company.

I don't know his wife and I love her for that comment!

Di its true that server was rude and I feel over stepped her bounds and feel for your friends BUT that said, didn't your friend know it was STEAK FOR FATHER? Why set himself up for insult? Twice, first by being in the steak line if he knew, and second, after getting the steak telling her he didn't qualify by not being a father. Am I the only one seeing that this was an unecessary situation to begin with??? I do think this companies function was discriminatory, and others should be avoided totally in the future by ALL the employees. You are so right JJ, just like in high school.

Chatty, when they got TO the counter, they saw the sign for the first time. She would NEVER have "set him up". Plus, the just handed everyone a steak, then he was honest and said "I'm not 'one'".

Yep, Junior high. Too bad.