Welcome to the forum, new attitude. I am so sorry to hear of this messy divorce situation. There are several women on here who are going through or have gone through, painful divorces, too. I'm sure they will welcome you with open arms and offer any advice they can give. In the meantime, vent all you want. I've heard divorce is a sstressful as a death, to deal with. I will pray for peace for your soul, and your childrens' as well. I will also pray that your husband will grow up and put his kids first, ahead of his own bitterness.