Dear Chatty Lady and Lionspaaw,

Thankyou so much for your reply's. It really helps knowing other people are there to talk to. We don't have any kids - he has been telling me it wasn't a good time with his work - when infact he just wanted them with someone else. I talked to a lawyer, and he says that the only thing I can do is to contest on the grounds of his adultery to get it in the public record, but that the application for a divorce can only be made by one person so now he's done it I cant. I now am liable to all his legal costs. The scum bag earns just under half a million per year, yet I don't have a job. I expect to be forced out of our home. The laws in the UK are not great if you are the dependant and have no kids. I can't believe I married someone so awful.