Starting Over - I hear two words in all your postings that makes me feel that you're going to come out of this just fine

YOUR ATTORNEY

If your "husband" can rattle your cage and keep you away from legal representation he has a chance in court -- even if you can't bring the charges pending into your divorce case -- YOUR ATTORNEY vs him -- well -- I think you get the picture.

Don't worry about speaking in court -- that's what YOUR ATTORNEY is for. Keep your answers short and sweet -- YES and NO -- I'm sure YOUR ATTORNEY will go through it all with you before the court date. How about taking something small with you to squeeze real tight when you feel yourself getting upset -- something you can fit in your pocket -- no one else needs to know you have it and it can give you an edge

And in the meantime -- continue to "ignore his demands" -- that's not being mean -- that's protecting yourself.

Hey -- with YOUR ATTORNEY and all us boomer women on your side -- how can you POSSIBLY LOSE ?????