Thanks all. Latest update. He called last Friday to tell me he had made an appointment for us to meet with a mediator on Tues. at 2:00. He didn't ask if I could get off, didn't check to see if it was convenient, just told me to come to his town (3 hour drive) and he would pay for gas. Didn't even give me directions!

I ignored the call, didn't respond, didn't show up. Today I have a text message that says, "willing to negotiate divorce anyway I am comfortable."

He is still trying to stay out of court and playing on my 'fairness' to meet him somewhere to discuss terms--which will only mean me not getting what is fair. Why do men think we are so stupid?

Dr. Karen, can you answer this, or can you direct me to someone who will know--he keeps saying he isn't gay or a pedophile, that he's a sex addict.

I keep saying: 1. You've been with men--that's gay. 2. You are going to jail because they found the biggest collection of child porn ever--that makes you a pedophile. 3. You never wanted to be with me so you might be a sex addict, but it's not for women.

Am I wrong? I feel like the whole 'sex addict' term is just a cover up word for reality--that being a gay pedophile.

Am I wrong? Am I being overly harsh? Can someone be a sex addict without wanting sex with his wife....?

Just trying to fill in the final blanks in my thinking/emotions, thought you might have some insight.