Ditto...all of the above. Like many women divorcing abusive and very sick men, their capacity for manipulation (roses...threats...roses...threats) has to be seen to be believed. I had one too (the roses which he charged on MY credit card kept coming every month for a year after he was long gone...and usually were half dead by the time I came home from work and retrieved them from the front stoop!).

But you are on the right track and need to stay a steady course. He is ONLY thinking of himself...before, during and after the divorce. If he had any capacity at all to think about the welfare of another human being, he would not have those charges filed against him.

Use this forum, read Teresa's Hamilton's book (www.thepowerofaddictedlove.com), get counseling or go to Twelve Step meetings. But don't let down your guard or think for one second that a loving God is not holding you in His arms. We're all there for you.