Starting Over:

Two (2) things:

1. (((((( H U G ))))))

2. Prepare some type of timeline indicating the date & time of each email, phone message, gift and threat and provide this to the police. Especially the message regarding the 3 choices he provided the later of the 3 which is considered a threat. You can also call you local domestic violence center. Bottom line: you are not playing games, you mean business. Get A Restraining ORDER! First, ask you attorney, and if your attorney has a paralegal, ask her first if this would be a paramount move, b/c speaking w/ a paralegal cost less than the attorney!