If you have preliminary signed agreements as to child support payments,at least in the interim before a divorce is final, seems to me that if he's not paying it, your lawyer should be filing for contempt of court...if you don't have any signed documents that are enforcable in court, seems to me that you ought to get a lawyer that'll get this step done..i wouldn't be looking for maintenance support from him, unless you're incapable of working, but he ought to be paying his share of kids' needs...but i love the trying on shoes analogy..a good lawyer is ethical, most lawyers are, but remember his lawyer is working for your husband, so that attorney is not looking out for your best interests..boy, did i ramble on here or what!