Chatty, you know just the right thing to say! You're right, this year Christmas is all about my brother. I'm so sure about that that it really doesn't matter what the others think about it, it's just the way it is this year. I like the idea that if they grumble and give us a hard time, we'll just forget about New Years too! The only person I'm really concerned about on that side is my 5 year old granddaughter. We're still going to make sure we connect with her on the 25th, probably will drive over in the afternoon with all the gifts, but she's going to have a hard time understanding why they can't come for supper. But this year with a new baby in the house, maybe they won't want to travel anyway. I may be worrying about something that won't even happen!! I really do just have to take some deep breaths, focus on what's important and let the rest of it slide into the background. I really appreciate your wisdom and thoughtfulness, Chatty. Thanks.