Eagle Heart sometimes we have to make choices, some hard, some not so hard. You are faced with a brother with a life threatening condition and no guarantees. You need to be able to use your energy to make this the best Christmas ever for him. Try not to worry about those people that have no love for anyone but themselves anyhow. Talk to your husband, and as long as he is alright with your decision, the hell with the rest of his clan. No matter what you do, it never seems to be enough for them anyway so do what you have to do. Enjoy your holiday with your brother and if they grumble and carry on too much; don't invite them for New Years either. People will treat us the way we allow them to treat us....You're an angel and they don't deserve you.