So far what I have contributed to this marriage has, for the most part, been fun. Actually I think my husband has done more work than I have especially since my surgery, but he says he's learning some new things and seems pretty cheerful about it.
I can't seem to approach marriage as a job or work (been there, done that). Puts too much stress on me to do it well. I think I do better approaching it as an adventure which like about all fun results from a degree of effort. It seems a lot less pressure to view it as something pleasurable over which I have little control.